Salam
I got this in my inbox this morning and thought may be in our Monday, we need some reminder on what we are actually going to do for the work week.
Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain!
It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80s arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry, as he had an appointment at 9:00 am. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would be able to see him.
I saw him looking at his watch, and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On examination, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.
While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.
I inquired as to her health; he told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now. I was surprised, and asked him, 'And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are'?
He smiled as he patted my hand and said, ''She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is.'
I had to hold back tears as he left. I had goose bumps on my arms and thought, 'That is the kind of love I want in my life'.
True love is neither physical nor romantic.
True love is acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.
With all the jokes and fun that are in e-mails, sometimes there is one that comes along that has an important message.
This one I thought I could share with you.
The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have. I hope you share this with someone you care about. I just did.
'Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain! See all the ways you can stay connected to friends and family
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Thursday, October 8, 2009
Coping with criticism
Hi
I picked up this article by Patricia Spadaro which is relevant to our lives and I want to share with you.
We all get by life's slings and arrows from time to time. These can come from a resident critic - a family member, friend, or a co-worker who always finds something wrong - or as an occasional putdown that catches you by surprise. What do you do when an insult is hurled your way, privately or publicly? Do you pretend you didn't hear it or hurl an insult right back? Do you internalise it or get angry and lash out. You may not be able to stop someone's nasty words or careless actions, but you can change how you deal with those barbs. They don't have to take you down or tempt you to retaliate.
Try these healthy and empowering tips to meet insults and criticism gracefully and appropriately.
i. Acknowledge your feelings.
Pressure can build when you don't acknowledge what is bothering you. When someone hurts you, especially someone close to you, you may stuff your feelings below the surface to avoid a confrontation, but your feelings are a key part of your internal guidance system - they warn you when something is wrong. By ignoring feelings, you create a larger problem to deal with later. By accepting the messages they bring, you will be able to deal more effectively with issues from the start.
Try this : Rather than slamming a lid over your emotions, notice them as they arise - without judging yourself or blaming others for making you upset. Ask yourself: if my feelings could talk right now, what would they say? What is this feeling asking me to do? What new choices can I make to help me feel at peace about this situation?
ii. Draw Clear Boundaries with Big Critics
You get to choose who and what you will tolerate in your life. If you are in a personal or working relationship with someone who tries to whittle down or whittle away your self esteem by constantly judging and belittling you, you owe it to yourself to create boundaries and to tell that person how you feel when that happens. It is important for your well being to remove yourself from that toxic energy. It can weigh you down, stunt your creativity, and make you feel depressed or sick.
Try this: Decide on a specific action you will take if the judger in your life continues to bombard you with criticism. Clearly, lovingly, and firmly tell him or her what you will do if it happens again. For example, you may decide to leave the room, politely excuse yourself from the phone call, or, if it is serious enough, end the relationship altogether. Be sure to follow through and take that action. When you honour yourself, you are training other other people to honour you.
iii. Look for the Nugget of Truth
The people in our lives - at home, at work, or in line at the grocery - are often our mirrors. They reflect back the impact of our words and actions. Another's words though harsh or spiteful, can awaken us to an aspect of our own behaviour we have refused to own up to. Although criticism can be hard to take, you can benefit from it by looking for the nugget of truth embedded in a painful situation.
Try this: Instead of overreacting to criticism and going on the attack, summon the courage to ask yourself: Does this criticism include the tiniest morsel of truth about me that I can learn from? Then ask yourself (and even the person who criticised you) how you can do better. That missing piece of information may very well be the key to your next spiritual and emotional growth spurt.
iv Correct Lies and Statements that Sabotage
When someone spreads dangerous rumours or lies that jeopardise your job or an important relationship, you can't ignore it. This is not the time to chatter behind closed doors with friends or wring your hands with worry. This is a time for positive action. Don't blame or shame the judgers by calling them names. Instead, focus on finding resolution by clearing inaccuracies in the sabotaging statements. There may be real misunderstandings that you now have the oppurtunity to clear up with facts. For example, actress Jane Fonda started her own blog to address the many rumours that swirl around her.
Try this: To get clarity, take several deep breaths and pull out a piece of paper. On one side, write down the false statement. On the other side, write down the truth as you see it. Ask to meet in person with those who have the misunderstanding and calmly explain how you feel and what the facts really are. If necessary, also put the correction in writing and send it to those involved. Even if others do not accept the truth, you have stood up for yourself and move on.
v Problem solve from the Heart
The world's sages teach that a quiet heart can lead us to the best solutions to any issue. When you are facing the knotty problem of how to deal with someone's unkindness or sharp criticism, you will handle the situation better by moving into your heart. Do not impulsively shoot from the hip (or the mouth). Pick your favourite techique for centering before making a decision.
Try this: Get out of your head and relax heated emotions by centering in your heart. Simply close your eyes and breathe deeply, then see and feel a flame burning brightly in your heart. Or take a few minutes to recall an experience that makes you feel happy or grateful. Once you feel a real sense of joy or peace, turn back to the issue at hand. Ask yourself: "What is the best way for me to resolve this issue? What is my next step?" Then listen for the answer that arises.
I picked up this article by Patricia Spadaro which is relevant to our lives and I want to share with you.
We all get by life's slings and arrows from time to time. These can come from a resident critic - a family member, friend, or a co-worker who always finds something wrong - or as an occasional putdown that catches you by surprise. What do you do when an insult is hurled your way, privately or publicly? Do you pretend you didn't hear it or hurl an insult right back? Do you internalise it or get angry and lash out. You may not be able to stop someone's nasty words or careless actions, but you can change how you deal with those barbs. They don't have to take you down or tempt you to retaliate.
Try these healthy and empowering tips to meet insults and criticism gracefully and appropriately.
i. Acknowledge your feelings.
Pressure can build when you don't acknowledge what is bothering you. When someone hurts you, especially someone close to you, you may stuff your feelings below the surface to avoid a confrontation, but your feelings are a key part of your internal guidance system - they warn you when something is wrong. By ignoring feelings, you create a larger problem to deal with later. By accepting the messages they bring, you will be able to deal more effectively with issues from the start.
Try this : Rather than slamming a lid over your emotions, notice them as they arise - without judging yourself or blaming others for making you upset. Ask yourself: if my feelings could talk right now, what would they say? What is this feeling asking me to do? What new choices can I make to help me feel at peace about this situation?
ii. Draw Clear Boundaries with Big Critics
You get to choose who and what you will tolerate in your life. If you are in a personal or working relationship with someone who tries to whittle down or whittle away your self esteem by constantly judging and belittling you, you owe it to yourself to create boundaries and to tell that person how you feel when that happens. It is important for your well being to remove yourself from that toxic energy. It can weigh you down, stunt your creativity, and make you feel depressed or sick.
Try this: Decide on a specific action you will take if the judger in your life continues to bombard you with criticism. Clearly, lovingly, and firmly tell him or her what you will do if it happens again. For example, you may decide to leave the room, politely excuse yourself from the phone call, or, if it is serious enough, end the relationship altogether. Be sure to follow through and take that action. When you honour yourself, you are training other other people to honour you.
iii. Look for the Nugget of Truth
The people in our lives - at home, at work, or in line at the grocery - are often our mirrors. They reflect back the impact of our words and actions. Another's words though harsh or spiteful, can awaken us to an aspect of our own behaviour we have refused to own up to. Although criticism can be hard to take, you can benefit from it by looking for the nugget of truth embedded in a painful situation.
Try this: Instead of overreacting to criticism and going on the attack, summon the courage to ask yourself: Does this criticism include the tiniest morsel of truth about me that I can learn from? Then ask yourself (and even the person who criticised you) how you can do better. That missing piece of information may very well be the key to your next spiritual and emotional growth spurt.
iv Correct Lies and Statements that Sabotage
When someone spreads dangerous rumours or lies that jeopardise your job or an important relationship, you can't ignore it. This is not the time to chatter behind closed doors with friends or wring your hands with worry. This is a time for positive action. Don't blame or shame the judgers by calling them names. Instead, focus on finding resolution by clearing inaccuracies in the sabotaging statements. There may be real misunderstandings that you now have the oppurtunity to clear up with facts. For example, actress Jane Fonda started her own blog to address the many rumours that swirl around her.
Try this: To get clarity, take several deep breaths and pull out a piece of paper. On one side, write down the false statement. On the other side, write down the truth as you see it. Ask to meet in person with those who have the misunderstanding and calmly explain how you feel and what the facts really are. If necessary, also put the correction in writing and send it to those involved. Even if others do not accept the truth, you have stood up for yourself and move on.
v Problem solve from the Heart
The world's sages teach that a quiet heart can lead us to the best solutions to any issue. When you are facing the knotty problem of how to deal with someone's unkindness or sharp criticism, you will handle the situation better by moving into your heart. Do not impulsively shoot from the hip (or the mouth). Pick your favourite techique for centering before making a decision.
Try this: Get out of your head and relax heated emotions by centering in your heart. Simply close your eyes and breathe deeply, then see and feel a flame burning brightly in your heart. Or take a few minutes to recall an experience that makes you feel happy or grateful. Once you feel a real sense of joy or peace, turn back to the issue at hand. Ask yourself: "What is the best way for me to resolve this issue? What is my next step?" Then listen for the answer that arises.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Selamat Hari Raya Aidil Fitri
Salam to all,
Some of us will weep the passing of Ramadhan and some of us - well better not say it. In any event Hari Raya Aidil Fitri is upon us and the upcoming RAE exam notice will be or has been published in the national newspapers. For those that rely on the electronic media for news - go to MCMC website and download the relevant information and do remember to pay the amount for the examination.
So may all your ibadah during the Ramadhan be blessed by Allah and may the blessings of Allah be on you. Funny though during Ramadhan we show restraint, understanding and compassion but after Ramadhan - shucks - it looks like its been thrown out the window.
Anyway, Selamat Hari Raya to all and may you be safe wherever you are.
From the bottom of my heart, I seek your forgiveness if I had ever wronged any of you in any way.
73 de 9W2SBS signing off.
Some of us will weep the passing of Ramadhan and some of us - well better not say it. In any event Hari Raya Aidil Fitri is upon us and the upcoming RAE exam notice will be or has been published in the national newspapers. For those that rely on the electronic media for news - go to MCMC website and download the relevant information and do remember to pay the amount for the examination.
So may all your ibadah during the Ramadhan be blessed by Allah and may the blessings of Allah be on you. Funny though during Ramadhan we show restraint, understanding and compassion but after Ramadhan - shucks - it looks like its been thrown out the window.
Anyway, Selamat Hari Raya to all and may you be safe wherever you are.
From the bottom of my heart, I seek your forgiveness if I had ever wronged any of you in any way.
73 de 9W2SBS signing off.
Thursday, September 10, 2009
Its been a long time
Salam and Hi, you all.
Yeah right, I apologise and yeah I know... This blog of mine has been ignored for a long time. My apologies not that I am vain enough to think that there are readers out there.
However a redeeming feature is that, i may have been quiet on the blogging front, (here and on the other one) it appears that I've been quite active on the social utility network called Face Book and those who are my FB friends have been getting updates on what has been happening to me and my family (no not the Mafia family - my real family you know Salmiah, Azlan, Imran and Sharidan), which has been S2D2, makan ulam, being sick and what not (Er, the makan part during buka, okay?)
Ramadhan has been smooth-sailing so far, syukur alhamdulillah. The family is facing it stoically and patiently - no more questions on why we should puasa. Well I guess my kids are big enough to know about the matter. It does help that the first day of Ramadhan was a Saturday and that that the first week of Ramadhan was during the school holidays plus Alhamdullilah the weather was kind.
Sahur, too, was not a nightmare with the kids - but hey they have grown up - and yes the years pass by without us parents noticing it. My better half is indeed the blessing in this house of mine. She would prepare everything and wake all of us up at 5:00a.m for Sahur without fail, except for that one day when she fell down and hurt herself. She is okay now but for the bruises on her hand and arm.
For our berbuka, we would hunt at the USJ 4 Bazaar Ramadhan. I would look for my nasi kerabu and the family for their favorite dish.
There's one stall which sells all sorts of kueh-mueh which I like. Their kuehs are tasty, and nicely made (comel) and clean. They sell very nice Kueh Kochi and badak berendam, the wife of course would look out for kuih ceria or is it Keria?). Then there is the queue for more than half an hour for the Popiah Basah which is definitely not for me.
Well as we approach the second half of Ramadhan which incidentally brings more blessings to us, insya Allah, I wish for all my friends and enemies (i hope not to have any but then again who knows) may Allah's blessings be on you and may your fast today and yesterday be rewarded with more than just hunger and thirst.
Yeah right, I apologise and yeah I know... This blog of mine has been ignored for a long time. My apologies not that I am vain enough to think that there are readers out there.
However a redeeming feature is that, i may have been quiet on the blogging front, (here and on the other one) it appears that I've been quite active on the social utility network called Face Book and those who are my FB friends have been getting updates on what has been happening to me and my family (no not the Mafia family - my real family you know Salmiah, Azlan, Imran and Sharidan), which has been S2D2, makan ulam, being sick and what not (Er, the makan part during buka, okay?)
Ramadhan has been smooth-sailing so far, syukur alhamdulillah. The family is facing it stoically and patiently - no more questions on why we should puasa. Well I guess my kids are big enough to know about the matter. It does help that the first day of Ramadhan was a Saturday and that that the first week of Ramadhan was during the school holidays plus Alhamdullilah the weather was kind.
Sahur, too, was not a nightmare with the kids - but hey they have grown up - and yes the years pass by without us parents noticing it. My better half is indeed the blessing in this house of mine. She would prepare everything and wake all of us up at 5:00a.m for Sahur without fail, except for that one day when she fell down and hurt herself. She is okay now but for the bruises on her hand and arm.
For our berbuka, we would hunt at the USJ 4 Bazaar Ramadhan. I would look for my nasi kerabu and the family for their favorite dish.
There's one stall which sells all sorts of kueh-mueh which I like. Their kuehs are tasty, and nicely made (comel) and clean. They sell very nice Kueh Kochi and badak berendam, the wife of course would look out for kuih ceria or is it Keria?). Then there is the queue for more than half an hour for the Popiah Basah which is definitely not for me.
Well as we approach the second half of Ramadhan which incidentally brings more blessings to us, insya Allah, I wish for all my friends and enemies (i hope not to have any but then again who knows) may Allah's blessings be on you and may your fast today and yesterday be rewarded with more than just hunger and thirst.
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
What is life?
What is life? George Harrison asked about it in his dark horse album. Critical thinkers tinkered about it. Even Harry Potter pottered on it. So just what is life? I think life is just what we fill it with. First with the main agenda in our life the big rocks then the small stones and pebbles and lastly the sands of time.
After all that is said and done what is our life and what we do with it denotes what we have been and what we have been doing. To quote DUmbledore of Harry Potter fame "it is not the abilities that we have that make us, it is what we do with those abilities that is going to define us".
Till the next time then. Do something with your life.
After all that is said and done what is our life and what we do with it denotes what we have been and what we have been doing. To quote DUmbledore of Harry Potter fame "it is not the abilities that we have that make us, it is what we do with those abilities that is going to define us".
Till the next time then. Do something with your life.
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
The true meaning of being a friend.
Hi
today I'd like to relate and reflect on the true meaning of being a friend.
You see we always take things for granted and we assume that when we call friend up, he will always be available. Unfortunately that assumption is hazardous and always a dangerous state of affairs.
When we call upon friend we are asking a commitment from him and when he fails to deliver we feel disappointed and let down.
I guess what we should be saying is - is it fair to ask of our friends something anything for that matter and expect full compliance and committment.
Untilltyne next time.
today I'd like to relate and reflect on the true meaning of being a friend.
You see we always take things for granted and we assume that when we call friend up, he will always be available. Unfortunately that assumption is hazardous and always a dangerous state of affairs.
When we call upon friend we are asking a commitment from him and when he fails to deliver we feel disappointed and let down.
I guess what we should be saying is - is it fair to ask of our friends something anything for that matter and expect full compliance and committment.
Untilltyne next time.
Sunday, July 19, 2009
MARTS AGM
Hi,
As you would be aware, I had made a call for the members to convince the National Council to hold the Annual General Meeting for the society which incidentally is long over due.
The society is what we make it and what we want it to be. I truly would be sad if through the inaction or omission we allow the society to be de - registered just because we fail to hold the AGM. I also understand that the reason for not holding the AGM is related to the accounts which unfortunately has not been prepared and audited.
Why this sorry state of affairs has come about is any one's answer. Were we remiss when we elected the current council to hold office and were they remiss when they appointed the Treasurer? Well to me that is water under the bridge and no use in crying over split milk. The deed has been done and now we have to rectify it.
However, for me NOT to hold the AGM and comply with the constitution smacks of irresponsiblity. You may say that it is easy for me to say so when I do not know the pressures and limitations of the Council - and yes I heartily agree with you. It is easy for me to say so but it takes guts to say it in public and request for it to be done.
So gentlemen, please hold the AGM, if the accounts are not ready so be it. Hold the AGM to have the election of the new office bearers, Hold the AGM so as to comply with requirements of the law, HOLD the AGM so as not to cause the honourable society to be de registered.
My sentiments on it has been made known at the last AGM held in Bachok Kelantan, though it was not reported in the minutes. My motion to censure the Committee too was not recorded but that is past and my sentiments still remain the same. I am passionate about the society and I recognise the sacrifices made by my predecessors in setting up the society and in running the society.
So please Mr. President and Mr. Honorary Secretary, issue the notice to call the AGM and if need be the sole agenda would be to hold the election for the office bearers.
I remain,
faithfully yours,
9W2SBS
As you would be aware, I had made a call for the members to convince the National Council to hold the Annual General Meeting for the society which incidentally is long over due.
The society is what we make it and what we want it to be. I truly would be sad if through the inaction or omission we allow the society to be de - registered just because we fail to hold the AGM. I also understand that the reason for not holding the AGM is related to the accounts which unfortunately has not been prepared and audited.
Why this sorry state of affairs has come about is any one's answer. Were we remiss when we elected the current council to hold office and were they remiss when they appointed the Treasurer? Well to me that is water under the bridge and no use in crying over split milk. The deed has been done and now we have to rectify it.
However, for me NOT to hold the AGM and comply with the constitution smacks of irresponsiblity. You may say that it is easy for me to say so when I do not know the pressures and limitations of the Council - and yes I heartily agree with you. It is easy for me to say so but it takes guts to say it in public and request for it to be done.
So gentlemen, please hold the AGM, if the accounts are not ready so be it. Hold the AGM to have the election of the new office bearers, Hold the AGM so as to comply with requirements of the law, HOLD the AGM so as not to cause the honourable society to be de registered.
My sentiments on it has been made known at the last AGM held in Bachok Kelantan, though it was not reported in the minutes. My motion to censure the Committee too was not recorded but that is past and my sentiments still remain the same. I am passionate about the society and I recognise the sacrifices made by my predecessors in setting up the society and in running the society.
So please Mr. President and Mr. Honorary Secretary, issue the notice to call the AGM and if need be the sole agenda would be to hold the election for the office bearers.
I remain,
faithfully yours,
9W2SBS
Friday, June 26, 2009
Leadership in the Office #2
Hi again,
continuing on the series - this time we will jot down the various leadership style.
Leadership style
Study of great leaders, past and present, shows that in one way or another they had the gift of getting people to give their best. We are all born with an individual set of talents. We can acquire some more; but others are more difficult to develop. Most people can improve their communication skills but find it difficult to acquire a sense of humour.
The first thing to do in developing your own leadership style is to make the best use of what you have and not to worry too much about what you haven't. A sense of humour is certainly a great help on many occasions, but there have been many successful leaders who have gotten by without one.
To develop and build on each talent you need to match your own character and personality to the range of leadership tools and qualities. There is no mould or blueprint, but do not hesitate to follow the example of others whose leadership you admire, provided there is some match to your own personality. For instance there is no use aping Winston Churchill if you can't match his linguistic skills.
So you must be yourself and not pretend to be what you are not. You must also be ready to adapt your leadership style to varying situations. Being firts on the scene at a road traffic accident calls for a very different style of leadership to chairing a meeting.
Commanding a war ship is very much different from being a manager in a civilian office environment. Indeed some of my friends find the adjustment very difficult. Command is not automatically adhered to and respect has to be earned and does not rest on how broad or how many stripes there is on your shoulder board.
There is nothing dishonest about adapting your style to suit the situation: indeed it is good leadership to do so.
Till the next time - have a happy weekend and do seek out a leader that you most admire and try to copy him, a word of advise though - no one can copy Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamed. Be warned.
de 9W2SBS
continuing on the series - this time we will jot down the various leadership style.
Leadership style
Study of great leaders, past and present, shows that in one way or another they had the gift of getting people to give their best. We are all born with an individual set of talents. We can acquire some more; but others are more difficult to develop. Most people can improve their communication skills but find it difficult to acquire a sense of humour.
The first thing to do in developing your own leadership style is to make the best use of what you have and not to worry too much about what you haven't. A sense of humour is certainly a great help on many occasions, but there have been many successful leaders who have gotten by without one.
To develop and build on each talent you need to match your own character and personality to the range of leadership tools and qualities. There is no mould or blueprint, but do not hesitate to follow the example of others whose leadership you admire, provided there is some match to your own personality. For instance there is no use aping Winston Churchill if you can't match his linguistic skills.
So you must be yourself and not pretend to be what you are not. You must also be ready to adapt your leadership style to varying situations. Being firts on the scene at a road traffic accident calls for a very different style of leadership to chairing a meeting.
Commanding a war ship is very much different from being a manager in a civilian office environment. Indeed some of my friends find the adjustment very difficult. Command is not automatically adhered to and respect has to be earned and does not rest on how broad or how many stripes there is on your shoulder board.
There is nothing dishonest about adapting your style to suit the situation: indeed it is good leadership to do so.
Till the next time - have a happy weekend and do seek out a leader that you most admire and try to copy him, a word of advise though - no one can copy Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamed. Be warned.
de 9W2SBS
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
LEADERSHIP IN THE OFFICE
Hi,
Just to continue the 'Now you are a Manager' series, I have decided to mix it up with a pamphlet that I produced in my previous working life entitled Leadership in the Office. It is not a dogmatic approach to leadership but I hope it will inspire discussion on the matter.
As it is, developing leadership is not cheap, the amount of money needed to attend such courses is exorbitant and yet our bosses expect us to have it and implement it.
So here goes - the first article in the series of many (I hope)
Foreword
Leadership is not a black art. It can be learned, practised and polished by anyone who is prepared to make the effort. In that sense it is no different to other professional attributes required in your field. If you want to get better at it - you have to spend time on it and at it.
There are many of us who could improve our leadership in one way or another. You might find it heldful to read this pamphlet when you join a new organisation, are promoted or take on new responsibilities. Six months later it may be worth having another quick read to help review and refresh your leadership knowledge. It might also be able to give you personal guidance if you are confronted byu a particularly difficult leadership challenge.
Improved leadership leads directly to improved effectiveness. we have recognised the gains of the Scientific Revolution, the Industrial Revolution, the Social Revolution and the Computer Revolution. The next step up in performance needs to come from a Leadership Revolution.
Till the next time - de 9W2SBS
Just to continue the 'Now you are a Manager' series, I have decided to mix it up with a pamphlet that I produced in my previous working life entitled Leadership in the Office. It is not a dogmatic approach to leadership but I hope it will inspire discussion on the matter.
As it is, developing leadership is not cheap, the amount of money needed to attend such courses is exorbitant and yet our bosses expect us to have it and implement it.
So here goes - the first article in the series of many (I hope)
Foreword
Leadership is not a black art. It can be learned, practised and polished by anyone who is prepared to make the effort. In that sense it is no different to other professional attributes required in your field. If you want to get better at it - you have to spend time on it and at it.
There are many of us who could improve our leadership in one way or another. You might find it heldful to read this pamphlet when you join a new organisation, are promoted or take on new responsibilities. Six months later it may be worth having another quick read to help review and refresh your leadership knowledge. It might also be able to give you personal guidance if you are confronted byu a particularly difficult leadership challenge.
Improved leadership leads directly to improved effectiveness. we have recognised the gains of the Scientific Revolution, the Industrial Revolution, the Social Revolution and the Computer Revolution. The next step up in performance needs to come from a Leadership Revolution.
Till the next time - de 9W2SBS
Thursday, June 18, 2009
lest we forget
How could I ever forget the day you came into my life? Your mother dropped you off last and what a mite you were... The moment I laid my eyes on you I was hooked. Your clear green eyes and your wide mouth melted this ole heart of mine. You were cute and to think that it was what 7 years ago.
Anyway, I tried to pick you up when you were about 3 weeks old and, man, was your mother angry! She hissed and hussed her at me - eyes shooting fire bolts and shooting stars ..... "hey I only want to cuddle your baby up" I said.... 'dirty old man' that's what her eyes were saying.....
Fast forward last 3 years, and I could see that you had left your mark on the world.... so many ginger haired kids around the neighbourhood..... so that explains your absence from home. You were out gallivanting and partying around the neighbourhood. Funny though you were never the fighter always the lovey dovey type and man, could you purr your way into my family's heart.
I must admit that I neglected to take care off you lately, what with my busy schedule and my work related matters. I could only see you around mid night that too when I see you scrambling up the road to greet me exiting from the car. Hey, I must admit that your greetings were sometimes heart warming and heart renderingly fresh. You did not impose on me anything nor did you want anything from me, just a pat on the head and a scrub on your belly and that's it.
and when I called for you, even in the middle of the night - lo and behold there you were, waving and scrambling to come. There were times in your haste that you were nearly runned over by the traffic but hey you had nimbleness as your middle name.
No histronics or drama from you. You were pleased that I came back ... that's it....full stop.
and now I will miss you. You decided three days ago that you had to move on, you could no longer stay on this side of the world. You tried to tell me but I could see that your lips just could not move and that you looked terribly beaten down. You looked like you were saying your goodbyes to all your relatives and off springs in the neighbourhood.
and ..... this morning, I find you at your favourite resting place... not a stirr and not a sound.
My touch now fails to excite you and I find that you have gone. You must have tried to come in as I can see your prone body facing the door.
So Ginger, if cats do go to heaven - I will be seeing you there - if not then you will always have a place in my heart.
to my tom cat Ginger
Anyway, I tried to pick you up when you were about 3 weeks old and, man, was your mother angry! She hissed and hussed her at me - eyes shooting fire bolts and shooting stars ..... "hey I only want to cuddle your baby up" I said.... 'dirty old man' that's what her eyes were saying.....
Fast forward last 3 years, and I could see that you had left your mark on the world.... so many ginger haired kids around the neighbourhood..... so that explains your absence from home. You were out gallivanting and partying around the neighbourhood. Funny though you were never the fighter always the lovey dovey type and man, could you purr your way into my family's heart.
I must admit that I neglected to take care off you lately, what with my busy schedule and my work related matters. I could only see you around mid night that too when I see you scrambling up the road to greet me exiting from the car. Hey, I must admit that your greetings were sometimes heart warming and heart renderingly fresh. You did not impose on me anything nor did you want anything from me, just a pat on the head and a scrub on your belly and that's it.
and when I called for you, even in the middle of the night - lo and behold there you were, waving and scrambling to come. There were times in your haste that you were nearly runned over by the traffic but hey you had nimbleness as your middle name.
No histronics or drama from you. You were pleased that I came back ... that's it....full stop.
and now I will miss you. You decided three days ago that you had to move on, you could no longer stay on this side of the world. You tried to tell me but I could see that your lips just could not move and that you looked terribly beaten down. You looked like you were saying your goodbyes to all your relatives and off springs in the neighbourhood.
and ..... this morning, I find you at your favourite resting place... not a stirr and not a sound.
My touch now fails to excite you and I find that you have gone. You must have tried to come in as I can see your prone body facing the door.
So Ginger, if cats do go to heaven - I will be seeing you there - if not then you will always have a place in my heart.
to my tom cat Ginger
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Another one bites the dust
Hi Again
We had fun this weekend at the Relay for Life National Cancer Society of Malaysia event at Bukit Jalil. Some of us who promised their time and sweat could not make it so that is that and i understand that there are commitments made which take priority.
Any way congratulations to the organisers for being able to keep the program running as planned and congratulations too to all the volunteers.
Did you know that some of the participants walking on the track kept their friends updated through their facebook postings? Yup that's how powerful the social network has become and boy you should see their faces - full of smiles and cheerfull.
Maybe next year you will be there? See you then.
We had fun this weekend at the Relay for Life National Cancer Society of Malaysia event at Bukit Jalil. Some of us who promised their time and sweat could not make it so that is that and i understand that there are commitments made which take priority.
Any way congratulations to the organisers for being able to keep the program running as planned and congratulations too to all the volunteers.
Did you know that some of the participants walking on the track kept their friends updated through their facebook postings? Yup that's how powerful the social network has become and boy you should see their faces - full of smiles and cheerfull.
Maybe next year you will be there? See you then.
Monday, May 25, 2009
So you are now a MANAGER (intro)
Now that you have earned your reward: you are a manager and now a staff to manage. Onwards, your success no longer depends on just your technical know how and specialised knowledge. You will only prosper if other people do their jobs well.
Sheesh, you say - why do I have to depend on others for job approval. I am sure that if I do my work well, the rest will automatically follow. Well, hello - it doesn't work that way. You are a team leader now and what the rest of the team does will reflect on you and will ultimately determine the size of that money package at the end of the year.
Hei, you are a manager now, so buckle up and enjoy the ride. Hopefully with my ramblings here, you could get a few pointers on how to be a successful manager.
Funny isn't it? You were promoted because of your ability and yet, the Company does not provide any training for you to be an effective and succesfull manager. Your are expected to do your job, lead your team, manage your team and still produce the excellent results that you have been consistently producing year in and year out.
Just because you did not go to any managerial school to learn to be a manager doesn't mean that there isn't any. All you need to do is read, learn and have an open mind about things that may affect you.
I said an open mind not an empty open mind.
So till the next posting i will leave you with the words from Lee Iacocca,
"In the end, all management can be reduced to three words: people, product and profits. People come first"
Sheesh, you say - why do I have to depend on others for job approval. I am sure that if I do my work well, the rest will automatically follow. Well, hello - it doesn't work that way. You are a team leader now and what the rest of the team does will reflect on you and will ultimately determine the size of that money package at the end of the year.
Hei, you are a manager now, so buckle up and enjoy the ride. Hopefully with my ramblings here, you could get a few pointers on how to be a successful manager.
Funny isn't it? You were promoted because of your ability and yet, the Company does not provide any training for you to be an effective and succesfull manager. Your are expected to do your job, lead your team, manage your team and still produce the excellent results that you have been consistently producing year in and year out.
Just because you did not go to any managerial school to learn to be a manager doesn't mean that there isn't any. All you need to do is read, learn and have an open mind about things that may affect you.
I said an open mind not an empty open mind.
So till the next posting i will leave you with the words from Lee Iacocca,
"In the end, all management can be reduced to three words: people, product and profits. People come first"
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